Giving and Injecting Invitation

CHAPTER I

INTRODUCTION

1.1 Definition of Invitation

The definition of an invitation is a request for a person's attendance at an event. To form a social life an important step is to take the initiative to try and make plans with the potential friends you've met and are getting along with, and not to wait around and hope they invite you out first. Some people say they're not exactly sure how to ask someone to hang out.

Generally all of us have activities that need to attended by others. So you have to invite them to come and join. You might invite them orally (informal) or writing (formal). It is depend on situation where are you at the day. Might be you met your friend when you were jogging, you invite them to come and join for lunch/dinner/birthday party/ etc orally (informal)

CHAPTER II

DISCUSSION

2.1  Methods of inviting people out

You can invite people out face to face, over the phone, by texting, by email/Facebook message, or through a chat window. If you're arranging a larger gathering you can naturally also use a mix of these methods. I'd say one isn't better than the others. Of course, text messages can hit more people at once, and creating a Facebook event thread creates a spot where people can discuss and coordinate the plan. What will really determine whether people accept or not is whether the proposed activity works for them, not if you invite them out in person or through a text message.

What you ask them to do will depend on what you've gotten a sense they'd be interested in doing. Like for one person, in one situation, it may seem totally natural to invite them over to your place to hang out on the first occasion you spend time with them. With someone else you may get the feeling that wouldn't be as appropriate:

2.2           How to Giving an Invitation

a.             Open-ended invitation

Here you're gauging the other person's interest in hanging out. If they say yes, then you can work out the details.

• "Do you want to grab coffee/a drink some time?"
• "Do you want to go for a bike ride one day?"
• "We should go check out that new store some time."
• "Do you want to meet up to work out together one day?"
• "What days are you usually free? Want to hang out some time?"
• "We should get together outside of this class some time."

b.            Open-ended, but a little more specific

Here you're presenting a somewhat more solid plan, but you're still leaving it a bit open about when you'll do it.

• "Do you feel like getting coffee one day after class?"
• "Want to go for a bike ride one Saturday fairly soon?"
• "Want to come chill out at my place after work sometime soon?"
• "Do you want to go see that movie in the next week or so?"

c.             Here are the specific examples of giving invitation :

·         Could you come to my party ?

·         Would you mind coming over on Saturday night ?

·         Would you like to come to my birthday party  on .......... ?

·         How about going out for lunch to gather this afternoon  ?

·         I'd like you to ......... ?

·         Can you ............ ?

·         How would you like to ................... ?

·         Would you like to come to my place for dinner tonight, please ?

·         Why don't you join me for lunch/ dinner ?

·         I'd like to invite you to see our school/factory/office/ while you're in Bali/etc?

·         Would you come with me to the cinema tomorrow ?

·         etc.

2.3           How to Respond the Invitation

a.                   Accepting invitation

·         Thank you for your invitation I'll happy to come/join/dinner/lunch/etc.

·         That's very kind of you.

·         That sound wonderful, I'll happy to come/ join/ etc.

·         I'd love to go with you

·         Certainly, I'd love to go/ come/ join/ etc.

·         We’d like very much to….

·         What a delightful idea

·          With the greatest pleasure

·          Thank you very much for inviting me

·         It’s delightful to….

·         etc.

b.                  How to Declining/Refuse the Invitation

If you refuse/decline an invitation, remember to thank the person for the invitation and give a reason for refuse/decline. You don't  need to give a detailed reason, it's just a general reason.

Below are responses if you refuse/decline an invitation :

·         Thank you but I'm sorry, I'm afraid I can't...

·         Thank you for your invitation but I don't think I can make it.

·         I'd love to but I can't. I have other plans.

·         That's very kind of you, but I'm affraid my schedule is booked up all next week/next Sunday/ tomorrow/ Saturday night/ etc.

·         I'm sorry, but I have other plans. Thank you anyway.

·         I'd like to, but tomorrow I would prefer to stay at home.